Sharing The Good And The Bad

linking with Five Minute Friday at katemotaung.com – write for five minutes on a given prompt, which today is “share”

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Some things are easy to share- news of an engagement or a new baby, good exam results, a promotion, an amazing answer to prayer.  We want to shout these things from the rooftops.

Other things are not so easy- stories of failure and mistakes, of unfulfilled longings, of prayers which seem to go unanswered, of past wounds that continue to sting.  It can be tempting to keep these things to ourselves.  We don’t always like that these things are a part of our story.  We don’t want them to colour how people view us.  It doesn’t seem to glorify God to share these things.

But if we only present one side of the story we’re not being real.  If we pretend our lives are perfect and we only share the good parts, we miss out on the chance to connect.

Opening up is scary and feels vulnerable, but it is also powerful.  When we share our struggles and someone says, “Me too,” or offers a word of encouragement, or just lets us know they understand, the burden becomes a little bit lighter.

When we share, it frees others to share too.  It lets them know that it’s okay to be themselves and to be honest when life is tough.

And God can be glorified in our struggles as much as in our celebration: as we are reminded of our need for him, as we put our hope in him despite our circumstances, as we see his faithfulness, as we love and support and accept one another.

It’s not easy, but it’s what we were made for- to share together, both in the good and the bad.

If one part suffers, all the parts suffer with it, and if one part is honored, all the parts are glad.  All of you together are Christ’s body, and each of you is a part of it.”  (1 Corinthians 12:26-27)

 

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28 thoughts on “Sharing The Good And The Bad

  1. Yes! Very hard to share it all! Especially for all the world to see, here in the spacious place of the world wide web. But so encouraging to others when we do, I think. Great thoughts! I’m in the #32 spot at FMF.

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    1. Thanks, Christy. I don’t think we need to share it all, but I think if we are willing to open up about the difficult stuff it is encouraging to others and reminds them that they’re not alone.

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  2. Your words made a few heart bruises ache. Yes, for everyone there is unresolved pain and disappointment. Why just this morning before I read your post I thought of my greatest failure which I can’t seem to fix. If the feeling were a color I would say it is red. My joys, many as they are, are much more muted colors. There, I shared it and I will go on. Thank-you for bringing up the subject.

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    1. I agree that sometimes our failures and difficulties can seem so vivid and they can overshadow our joys. I’m sorry for your pain today, but thanks for your honesty in sharing. It’s comforting to remember that God can work for good, even in those things and that he can use them, even if it’s only much later that we see what he is doing.

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  3. Important points you raise in your post. And so well written as always (waving furtively, having been MIA for so long!)…..I’ve been thinking a lot, lately, about the idea of ‘real’…..and honesty and sharing good and bad….and the power of that….loved your words. Thanks for sharing. Helen xx

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  4. THIS: “Opening up is scary and feels vulnerable, but it is also powerful. When we share our struggles and someone says, “Me too,” or offers a word of encouragement, or just lets us know they understand, the burden becomes a little bit lighter.” So so true! I’m over in the #52 spot.

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  5. There is truth and wisdom in your words, Carly. Sharing our hearts can be scary but it paves the way for those ‘You too?’ moments which aid connectivity and realisation of not being alone with our struggles. Thank you for sharing how there are good and bad aspects of sharing with others. Bless you, friend. 🙂 x

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  6. Carly, such true words! It’s easy to only share the parts of ourselves we’re comfortable with, those parts that are uplifting and acceptable. It’s much more difficult—and takes a lot of brave—to share the inner parts of us, the failures, the questionings, the doubts, the struggles. But, when we can share all of this, people usually can relate more to us because they have some of those same things inside of them. And bonds are forged. And encouragements and depth happen.

    Great post!

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    1. Thanks, Trudy. Even though it is scary, it is worth it if it helps and encourages others. Thank you for your willingness to share and be vulnerable. Your words bless me a lot. Blessings and hugs!

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    1. Thanks for visiting. Opening up does lead to deeper intimacy with God, and it’s an important point you make that it can reveal him to others too as we share.

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  7. Carly,
    oh this was soo good! And the verse you shared. That was the one I was thinking of when I saw the prompt. I’m choosing to abstain from linking as it has been a lot of commitments this week/weekend and I’m already at Monday. But, I want to share in your joys (and sufferings). So glad you wrote!
    Love,
    Tammy

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  8. I agree. Sharing both the good and the bad make a person seem more real. The people who I have known who are always “fine, okay, or great” and don’t need anything are hard to relate to.
    While difficult to do, being vulnerable helps bring a closeness to each other that sharing only the good can never do.

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    1. It’s true, it is hard to relate to people unless they open up a bit. And yet I know I have to push myself to do it sometimes. It’s so easy just to say “I’m fine.” It’s worth the effort though to be honest about how we are. Thanks for visiting.

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