linking with Five Minute Friday at katemotaung.com – write for five minutes on a given prompt, which today is “miss”
It was our last night together and I wished it would never end. It was funny to remember that I had never wanted to go there in the first place, but it was clearly where God had led me and as I looked back over the last year I could see why.
God had worked so much growth and healing in my life, helped me open up to others and led me to some of the best friendships I had ever had. It hadn’t been easy, but it had been good.
And tomorrow it would end- we would go our separate ways and, while we could stay in touch, I knew it would never be the same. I was going to miss these people so much and in that moment, I wondered whether it was worth it.
I had been given so much and now it was being taken away. Wouldn’t it be better, and much less painful, not to know what you’re missing?
But then I realised that just because you don’t know what you’re missing doesn’t mean you’re not missing out. And it doesn’t mean you don’t know that something is missing. (Sorry if this is getting too deep and philosophical!)
I never knew any of my grandparents, and when I hear a friend talk about one of their grandparents dying and see their grief, I know that’s something I’ve avoided. But when I hear people talk about their happy memories of time with their grandparents, I also see that I’ve missed out on something special.
I think joy and grief are far more intertwined than we often realise. The feeling of missing and longing is because of love and, although it hurts, without it we would be poorer.
The longings also remind us that this world is not our home. It is broken and imperfect, and while we are here on earth there will always be the feeling that something is missing.
But it points us to the amazing hope we have for the future: to reunions with people we miss, the chance to finally meet people we missed out on ever knowing, and the places in our hearts where we ache and groan finally being restored as the missing pieces are slotted into place.
And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “Look! God’s dwelling place is now among the people, and he will dwell with them.They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. ‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.” He who was seated on the throne said, “I am making everything new!” (Revelation 21:3-5)