What Makes You Happy?


I’m excited to be part of the launch team for Jennifer Dukes Lee’s book “The Happiness Dare” which will be released on August 2nd.  Find out more and check out some pre-order special offers here.

I’m only halfway through the book but so far it’s been a thought-provoking read: looking at the link between happiness and holiness, how happiness relates to joy, and considering that God is the inventor of happiness and that it is something he wants us to pursue.

The second section of the book looks at different happiness styles, or the different things that bring us happiness.  I am finding this part of the book especially enlightening.

With happiness, as with most other things in life, it is easy to compare ourselves to others and think that we should be the same, but the truth is that:

“Happiness begins in that moment when we look within and say, “I was not created to be her.  I was created to be me.””

It is so freeing to understand that we all find happiness in different things.  What one person finds tedious or difficult might be the very thing that brings joy to someone else, and that’s okay- it’s because we were created differently.

There is a test which has been created to help you find your happiness style- click here to discover whether you’re a Doer, a Giver, a Thinker, a Relater or an Experiencer.

I am primarily a Thinker, and I was reassured by these words:

-Your inquisitive, wandering minddoesn't make you weird;it makes you wonderful.-

Sometimes I think my mind just works in a different way to other people’s.

Well, maybe it does, but that’s okay.

I particularly appreciated the comments about questions: “Questions aren’t curses, but are pathways to God’s answers… when we ponder and reason the things of God, we aren’t trying to outsmart him.  We’re becoming more like him.”

I can’t help asking questions.  I have a curious mind, I want to understand, I’m not afraid to wrestle with the difficult, unanswerable questions.  I realise though, that sometimes people see that as threatening.  They can see my questions as doubting, when really they are not coming from a place of doubt but from a desire to understand more.

Understanding happiness styles is helpful both for appreciating your own style, and for understanding more about others who have a very different style from you.

Of course none of us have just one style.  We all have elements of each of them to a greater or lesser degree and each of us is unique.

So I’ve been thinking about some things that make me happy:

Music- playing, singing, listening… especially playing with others in a band or orchestra.  There’s something wonderful about it- the fact that you each have your individual part to play, but they slot together to make something infinitely more amazing and beautiful that you could ever create by yourself.  There are times when I play music and it’s going well, and I feel like I’m doing what I was created to do.

Reading the Bible- unhurried time to read and journal and pray and let it sink in.  I’m not good at hearing God speak when I’m in a hurry, but when I have time to properly switch off from everything else to focus on God those are some of my happiest times.

Walking in God’s creation- by the sea, in the country, even in the local park- being out in nature is where I feel closest to God.

Talking with friends- again I’m happiest when I have unhurried time to go deep.  I’m not so much into small talk or big crowds, but give me uninterrupted time one-to-one or with a group of close friends and I’m happy.  I also love friends who are very different from me who push me outside my usual zone of happiness at times.

Storytelling with children- Children’s natural joy brings me joy, and I love to see their responses as they hear stories from the Bible for the first time.  If you need a happiness boost today, check out this post for some funny stories.

Anticipation– sometimes I enjoy the anticipation of happy events more than the event itself.  I’ve always enjoyed Friday night more than Saturday and Christmas Eve more than Christmas Day.  (Remember, I’m not weird but wonderful! 😉 )

Helping others-  My second most prominent happiness style is Giver and I loved this quote from that chapter in the book:

Light in dark- giver

Writing- I had no idea when I started this blog last year just how much happiness writing would bring.

I’d love to know what makes you happy.  Feel free to share in the comments, and don’t forget to check out your happiness style here.

             purposefulfaith.com        Holly Barrett Let Us Grow


35 thoughts on “What Makes You Happy?

  1. Hi there Carly. I can’t wait to read this book. I so wanted to be on the launch team, but just have too many obligations right now. I think I’m a “thinker” too. Look forward to seeing more on social media and to reading this book. Loved the list of what makes you happy. Some of them are on my list too. 🙂

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  2. Thank you – I am really interested in reading this book now. And thanks for the link to the test! So I am free to be a thinker without feeling guilty about it?? So what do you do when you are a thinker and a relater? You write! Great post and very freeing! ❤

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  3. Hey Carly I am excited to be a part of Jennifer’s book launch and I will agree that the book is fantastic! She joked with me that I would not lose my “man” card by being a part of the team. I told her I was looking forward to the experience as I am working to finish my book right now. I must admit that I am primarily a “doer” with a huge side dish of “thinker” so I totally relate to the thinker thoughts you share here today. I also love your list of things that make you happy. I so love music and reading God’s word. I am anticipating my birthday party next month and everything else entailed as I usually celebrate the entire month! Back to the book; the tie between happiness and holiness and finding your “sweet spot” was so revealing to me. I am excited to continue reading. Thanks for sharing your thoughts here today. Have a wonderful week and may God bless you with many more “happy” days going forward!

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    1. Horace, I’m glad you’re part of the team. Men need happiness too 🙂 I’m glad you’re enjoying the book and I’m glad you relate to my thoughts on being a thinker. I think a lot of thinkers are bloggers so one thing I have enjoyed about blogging is connecting with people who seem to be on the same wavelength.


  4. I have a friend who is also apart Jennifer’s book launch team and have enjoyed learning through her point of view. But your point of view brought the concept of this book closer to home. I know someone who is a thinker too. They were told all their life to not question the things of God because it made them have lack of faith. To this day, they don’t trust in God and who He is and in result not really happy. I find it very interesting to see how Jennifer uses that test to help us as the reader to identify who we are and what makes us happy. Like I said your post really brought them close to home. thanks for sharing. visiting from tellhisstory #3

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    1. Thanks, Kristina. That is sad when being told not to question turns people away from God. Some people need to question, but others don’t always understand that. One thing that is great about this book is it helps us understand other people’s happiness styles as well as our own, and I think it gives us a greater understanding of those who are very different from us.


  5. Oh my! I’m HAPPY reading this.
    Yes blogging gives happiness same with other items on your list 😉😄😄
    Lovely visiting you.
    Thanks for the review.
    God bless you

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  6. Stopping by from Holley’s. Great post about happiness and how exciting to be on Jennifer’s launch team! We just spent a few days with our son and daughter-in-law who live several states away so that made me very happy 🙂

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    1. Thanks, Debby. I’ve never been part of a launch team before and I’m really enjoying it. I’m glad you had a happy time seeing your family.


  7. I have always called myself an “over thinker” but I don’t think that’s a fair thing to call myself. The world needs people who think, and that’s why God wired us this way! I love what you wrote about how our questions lead us closer to God. I’ve never really thought of it that way before…thanks for your words Carly!

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    1. Definitely, the world needs thinkers. With all the happiness styles there are good points but also dangers, and the book goes into that too. I loved the part about questions in the book. It encouraged me that it’s okay that my mind works that way!


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